In dear memory of those who take their souls because they don't feel they are loved ..you must believe love will find you ...someday ..In dear memory ...i write this ...
Sarah looks in the mirror every morning …contemplating the reflection she see's ….Looking at her face ....testing her image in the mirror then finally she notices the scar on her left cheek.. then … angrily she hits her reflection …and screams is too flat….she whispers to herself …I hate myself ….I hate this person I see ...
Do you ever look in the mirror and contemplate your image...as well? Do you ever wish you looked more like the supermodels that you see on television rocking the runways with their super skinny frame and long legs to die for …well do we not all wish we had a bit of Gisele Bundohen … or Naomi Campel…but the reality is we all are different in so many ways …and unique in are own special ways …so the point is how does perception come about ….how do we develop our self image … the puzzling thing about self image is that its hard to define cause we all have are different perception of how we perceive are self the perception is build over time and is usually what people say about you.
The mad teacher who use to embarrass you for not getting a high grade in her subject ..or the mother with high expectations …who wishes a better life for you ..but instead of blurting encouraging words bombards you with negative remarks …or the father that pushes you to the brink of suicide cause your dieing to satisfy him …but all that you do is never good enough …everyday seems like a battle field with your self and your demons …..
Well what can we do to change that perception …lets just say there no magical cure for it but theirs a solution if you try hard enough to battle them you might get the answer you deserve … so lets look at Sarah case study to clarify a scenario where you might be able to relate to….
The mad teacher who use to embarrass you for not getting a high grade in her subject ..or the mother with high expectations …who wishes a better life for you ..but instead of blurting encouraging words bombards you with negative remarks …or the father that pushes you to the brink of suicide cause your dieing to satisfy him …but all that you do is never good enough …everyday seems like a battle field with your self and your demons …..
Well what can we do to change that perception …lets just say there no magical cure for it but theirs a solution if you try hard enough to battle them you might get the answer you deserve … so lets look at Sarah case study to clarify a scenario where you might be able to relate to….
Case study
Sarah, negative self perception can be changed if she looked or rather perceived herself more positively. She can change her negative self perception to a more positive self perception only by changing the voices she hears in her mind from a negative voice “Ugh ...I will never be good enough to join the tennis team cause I am not good enough to a more positive voice ...I can make the tennis team I got the necessary skills to make it in the team.”
Its challenging its like your in a constant battle against your self , like your fighting a battle in your head the voices that put you down so low ….the voices that make you feel unworthy ….Sarah was an average suburban girl ..Living a life every girl dreamed to have ….yet Sarah nightmares never seemed to end….Under all that …hid a girl with low self esteem ….
A girl so broken by pain she endured in her life ….everyday she came back home to the house she felt unloved ….A mother who loved the man she was with more than she loved the daughter she gave birth too …she came home …thinking what is going to be today ….what fault is she going to find in me to put me so low …..she stepped in the house …looked around …her mother looked back with a cold stare…Sarah looked away …she knew better than to look her mother in the eye ….she went straight to her room …her only escape was her room … window of hope was when she was 18 …I will run away get away from all this misery ….I don’t need her to love me …she cried alone at night ….dreaming of the day were she would disappear ….her mother cold hatred star never seemed to leave her mind ….she tried so hard for approval she never got any …and what’s even worse ….
she was in a constant battle with her head and it was all her fault …even though she was so beautiful inside and out she felt unworthy of love …she never felt loved to love anyone let alone herself ..She never heard words of love from her mother nor support .. …she went about her day every second no one knew the voices she was hearing inside …telling her that she was never going to be pretty enough or tall so she suffered in silence ….days went by and she felt that same no one or nothing ever changed how she felt inside …her self destructive behavior eventually got the best of her ….and what’s worse took her life …and she was alone and the mother who never knew her hurtful words was the cause of all that was done …so if we can think twice before we say anything hurtful to anyone cause those hurtful words can turn into feeling and the pain you inflect is a perception a person can carry to the rest of his or her life …lets think before we blurt out words like your too fat ….or your to short ….lets think about the consequences of what we say cause those words can either shape or damage a person lets be an angel instead of the devil …..the worse part is ..the people who inflect the most pain are the people we love the most hence the word we love ….but yet do you ever wonder that people who love you should always say words that uplift rather then put you down so if you suffer from low self esteem don’t hesitate to call are psychology center at Taman Desa. We are hear to listen to you !
she was in a constant battle with her head and it was all her fault …even though she was so beautiful inside and out she felt unworthy of love …she never felt loved to love anyone let alone herself ..She never heard words of love from her mother nor support .. …she went about her day every second no one knew the voices she was hearing inside …telling her that she was never going to be pretty enough or tall so she suffered in silence ….days went by and she felt that same no one or nothing ever changed how she felt inside …her self destructive behavior eventually got the best of her ….and what’s worse took her life …and she was alone and the mother who never knew her hurtful words was the cause of all that was done …so if we can think twice before we say anything hurtful to anyone cause those hurtful words can turn into feeling and the pain you inflect is a perception a person can carry to the rest of his or her life …lets think before we blurt out words like your too fat ….or your to short ….lets think about the consequences of what we say cause those words can either shape or damage a person lets be an angel instead of the devil …..the worse part is ..the people who inflect the most pain are the people we love the most hence the word we love ….but yet do you ever wonder that people who love you should always say words that uplift rather then put you down so if you suffer from low self esteem don’t hesitate to call are psychology center at Taman Desa. We are hear to listen to you !
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